Comparing isn’t always your enemy.

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“I’ll never be able to do this,” a new friend recently said when we went skateboarding together. She had just picked up the sport and was struggling to balance on the board, “you make it look so easy.”

I zoomed around and met back up with her, I completely understood where she was coming from because I had once been there. I would watch YouTube videos of amazing skaters and see pictures of these skater babe girls doing awesome tricks and find myself filled with defeat. …


Never scramble to decide again.

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“Welcome to class, we’ll begin in child pose,” the Yoga instructor said through the screen, “take a deep breath in, exhale, and begin to settle into an intention for class.”

Suddenly your mind runs wild…what’s coming up? What should I focus on? my hips are tight, does that mean I should only think about that? But then my heart feels tight from my strained relationships at home…should I focus on feeling the love from myself?

Frustration sets you, and you pick something that is so broad you can’t actually connect to it, like “letting go”. …


Trade-offs are worth more than I ever thought.

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What are you willing to give up to get what you’ve always wanted?

In sports, you must be willing to constantly sacrifice. You turn down holiday party invites to train through “hell week”, you sacrifice vacations to compete in a game, you forgo college parties to hit practice at 6:30 am on a Saturday. You sacrifice your sweet personality to push your teammates to be better, you turn down a summer internship in order to make it on time to practice. The list goes on…in order to be an athlete, you are constantly sacrificing.

But this often pays off, these…


The reality of Post-Competition Depression

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The alarm would go off at 5:40 am.

I'd roll out of bed, put on my swimsuit, and drag my UGG boots across campus to jump into a steaming pool with 30 other girls.

Training. School. Rehab. Training. Weights. School.

That was life as I knew it. Until one day, it suddenly stopped.

The alarm would now go off at 7:00 am, and instead of hitting the pool deck, it was off to the office. It felt like getting hit by a bus in slow motion, you know it’s coming but you’re unable to brace for impact.

At first, a…


Turn the mundane into the imaginary.

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When you were a little kid, you’ de rush out of the schoolroom doors..run home, and be ready to play.

Sometimes this would be make-believe games with dolls or imaginary friends, sometimes it would be building something like a lego set that your dog would eventually step on, or perhaps it would be spent drawing coloring, or writing. Regardless of the activity, you couldn't wait to do something fun each day.

The problem is, most of us no longer do that. We forget along the way to have fun with ourselves. We lose touch with our playful side and become…


Its Time To Decide If You Are Indecisive

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Would you like regular, soy, oat, lactose-free, or almond milk?

How would you like your nails, round or square?

Are you going to marry Brian or…?

Did you know that every day you make an average of 35,000 decisions?

That is nearly 1,500 decisions every hour. Clearly, our days are FILLED with choices…from what to wear, to whether to pick up your phone or not, to how to drive to a new place, all the while deciding what to say back to someone in a conversation.

For someone who suffers from indecision…this creates one really challenging day.

It’s overwhelming, a…


Not all workouts are created equal

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I walked out the door and smiled at everyone I met. I laughed at the dad jokes the barista receipted while I paid for my coffee. I told myself I was okay.

But the saying stays true: “you never know what someone is going through.”

Depression, anxiety, panic, and stress; these are not uncommon struggles, especially in recent months. In 2020, 40% of US adults admitted to struggling with mental health and substance use. …


The life you actually want is typically one decision away

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What’s your biggest fear?

Most often, if you ask someone this, their answer is something like…heights, or drowning beneath a ring of fire, or having a snake crawl out of a toilet and bite your butt.

While these are all justifiably frightening, my greatest fear has always been living an ordinary life. The terror of settling for something that isn’t everything I want shoots shivers down my spine and sends me into a thought pattern of negativity.

At one point, I was on the cusp of settling for a career that was safe but not fulfilling and a relationship that…


So often we spend life simply existing, but to live is the rarest thing in the world.

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Do you ever wonder what your purpose is?

If you’re anything like me, and most other Millennials, I was told I could become whatever I wanted to be when I grew up. When I was a kid, to me, that meant being a gas station attendant. No joke, all I wanted was to serve people and talk to them all day long…this was my dream.

As you can imagine, this wasn’t exactly a “career path” my parents were too stoked to support and I was encouraged to find other passions, ones without the constant smell of toxic fuems. …


It isn’t always about waking up early and being organized.

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At this point, we all know that successful people wake up early, eat breakfast and have an organized schedule.

While these are all true tips and helpful insight into the lives of the elite, there is so much more to gaining success than meets the eye. It's often what isn’t seen, or easily listed, that can be the hardest to attain, yet the most powerful to use.

This got me thinking about what the deeper success habits of powerful people are, and how can we embody them in our daily life.

Like you, I am working towards growth, striving to…

Kirsten Trammell

Sharing inspiring stories of change so that people find freedom in their lives. blog: kirstentrammell.com

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