It’s natural to want to know where you’re going in life. It feels good to have a clear trajectory for where you are heading.
So when you feel lost, it isn’t as glamorous as Julia Roberts makes it look in Eat, Pray, Love. It’s uncomfortable. You likely feel a secret sense of shame and the last thing you want is to share or connect with others until you figure things out.
So, how do you cope with living in this state? Or better yet, how do you fix it?
I’ll be real with you, there’s no quick, there is no…
What if athletes approached mental health the same way we approached physical health?
This was a question, Alexi Pappas, an Olympic runner, recently shared that really got me thinking.
When it comes to competition, athletes go above and beyond to prepare. You strengthen your muscles, you improve your cardiovascular capacity, you rest and recover. You do altitude training. You study tape or film, memorize plays, visualize races…the preparation never ends.
Athletes know how to work out their bodies for optimal and peak performance. It’s what we live and breathe.
But then, you get hurt. A muscle gets worn down, a…
“I’ll never be able to do this,” a new friend recently said when we went skateboarding together. She had just picked up the sport and was struggling to balance on the board, “you make it look so easy.”
I zoomed around and met back up with her, I completely understood where she was coming from because I had once been there. I would watch YouTube videos of amazing skaters and see pictures of these skater babe girls doing awesome tricks and find myself filled with defeat. …
“Welcome to class, we’ll begin in child pose,” the Yoga instructor said through the screen, “take a deep breath in, exhale, and begin to settle into an intention for class.”
Suddenly your mind runs wild…what’s coming up? What should I focus on? my hips are tight, does that mean I should only think about that? But then my heart feels tight from my strained relationships at home…should I focus on feeling the love from myself?
Frustration sets you, and you pick something that is so broad you can’t actually connect to it, like “letting go”. …
What are you willing to give up to get what you’ve always wanted?
In sports, you must be willing to constantly sacrifice. You turn down holiday party invites to train through “hell week”, you sacrifice vacations to compete in a game, you forgo college parties to hit practice at 6:30 am on a Saturday. You sacrifice your sweet personality to push your teammates to be better, you turn down a summer internship in order to make it on time to practice. The list goes on…in order to be an athlete, you are constantly sacrificing.
But this often pays off, these…
The alarm would go off at 5:40 am.
I'd roll out of bed, put on my swimsuit, and drag my UGG boots across campus to jump into a steaming pool with 30 other girls.
Training. School. Rehab. Training. Weights. School.
That was life as I knew it. Until one day, it suddenly stopped.
The alarm would now go off at 7:00 am, and instead of hitting the pool deck, it was off to the office. It felt like getting hit by a bus in slow motion, you know it’s coming but you’re unable to brace for impact.
At first, a…
When you were a little kid, you’ de rush out of the schoolroom doors..run home, and be ready to play.
Sometimes this would be make-believe games with dolls or imaginary friends, sometimes it would be building something like a lego set that your dog would eventually step on, or perhaps it would be spent drawing coloring, or writing. Regardless of the activity, you couldn't wait to do something fun each day.
The problem is, most of us no longer do that. We forget along the way to have fun with ourselves. We lose touch with our playful side and become…
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Did you know that every day you make an average of 35,000 decisions?
That is nearly 1,500 decisions every hour. Clearly, our days are FILLED with choices…from what to wear, to whether to pick up your phone or not, to how to drive to a new place, all the while deciding what to say back to someone in a conversation.
For someone who suffers from indecision…this creates one really challenging day.
It’s overwhelming, a…
I walked out the door and smiled at everyone I met. I laughed at the dad jokes the barista receipted while I paid for my coffee. I told myself I was okay.
But the saying stays true: “you never know what someone is going through.”
Depression, anxiety, panic, and stress; these are not uncommon struggles, especially in recent months. In 2020, 40% of US adults admitted to struggling with mental health and substance use. …
What’s your biggest fear?
Most often, if you ask someone this, their answer is something like…heights, or drowning beneath a ring of fire, or having a snake crawl out of a toilet and bite your butt.
While these are all justifiably frightening, my greatest fear has always been living an ordinary life. The terror of settling for something that isn’t everything I want shoots shivers down my spine and sends me into a thought pattern of negativity.
At one point, I was on the cusp of settling for a career that was safe but not fulfilling and a relationship that…